What's on your mind? (2025) - good way to start... even if a bit early... :-)

I guess so. It only took a month after our Dude passed, and I could no longer stand being sad and needing a new place for all that pet love in my heart.

What I meant by being selfish is that I know there are so, so, SO many cats out there needing a home. But it’s also been increasingly harder to find someone to take care of our house (and cat) when we are gone for two months, so… that, combined with the desire of climbing out of yet another debt hole by renting it out on weekends and next summer, it’s just not in the cards right now.

I’m sort of OK with that. I want to be able to fully appreciate our new household member, and not be comparing him to my beloved monkeyboy.

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Go easy on yourself. It’s hard to catch minute shifts, even when you think you’re looking for them. You’re not in denial (trust me, I’ve seen denial: when you look it up in the dictionary, there’s a picture of my mother), you’re just too close to notice slight changes. Now you have more of a 30,000 foot view and can be more objective.

ETA: Yeah, what @small_h said.

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Please don’t. People will often compensate for their own cognitive difficulties without realizing it themselves. And they’ll do so until things are beyond their ability to cover for themselves. I have been told this by doctors under a few different, unfortunate circumstances. Rest assured, there is no blame for you to take.

Good thoughts…

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Thank you, all for the kind words.

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Please don’t blame yourself. You’ve been too close to her every day to see any miniscule decline. You’re aware of it now and can adjust appropriately.

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Oh, Dan. :broken_heart:

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Just me being particular :rofl:

@Lectroid I’m so sorry for your losses. It’s been a lot.

And @Meekah, I tuned out here for a bit and missed all of your health scares. Wow! So glad you’re on top of what’s going on with your body. It would be devastating to lose you here!

10 years of HO…hard to believe.

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Thank you! I’m trying to figure out how to navigate the various doctors and bureaucrats now.

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I’m hoping I can share this without it becoming a political debate. Interesting trends – I remember becoming acquainted with a lot of them when I first became familiar with Paleo diet in the 2010s.

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Beef tallow as sunscreen? I’d think that might increase penetration, like when (some of us older folks) used to oil up to get burned… er… tanned more quickly.

Steak-n-Shake restaurants in my area do have billboards up proclaiming “Beef Tallow Fries!”.

Anyway, I’m sure there’ll be a lot of bandwagon-jumping going on as businesses shift to catch profits, to the extent “MAHA” drives any their way.

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They discontinued their fish sandwich. They are dead to me.

Pity too. Their fries were super thin and always crispy, tallow or not.

The chain started in Normal, IL, my ex’s home town. They had one in Champaign, too.

I’m pretty sure they got “private-equity’d” a while back that got to the “reducing the olives in the salad” stage of cost cutting and went seriously down hill.

I just got a 1lb of local (frozen) beef tallow & cannot wait to use it for frying. That said, the hysteria over seed oils is pretty amusing.

Why the sudden popularity of beef tallow? I always thought that the ultimate for frying potatoes was duck fat (which I love).

Because the current Secretary of Health and Human Services believes that seed oils are toxic. And since back in the late 80’s-early 90’s, McDonald’s switched from beef tallow to vegetable-based oils as the result of some poorly interpreted science and public pressure from some executive that blamed fast food for his heart attack.

I’m pretty sure there’s also some sort of ‘screw those hippies, I want ALL potatoes to have meat in them!’ factor at play.

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You didn’t eat enough of them!

I’ve eaten at the Monical’s that sits in the original location. Not sure when the SnS moved from there or when the Monical’s started in that spot.

Yes, that’s exactly what happened.

There’s still 4 in BN and 3 in the C-U area; all rated around 3.6 stars. What a slide. I haven’t been in one for probably 20 years, since the kids were little.

Fun fact - nearby Mattoon IL had the first “Burger King” restaurant, founded in the 1950’s by the Hoots family, a couple of years later than the BK Corp started it’s original “Insta Burger King” in Miami.

When the corp started expanding in the `60s, it tried to open a BK store in or near Mattoon but the local use of the name by the Hoots (after a lawsuit) kept them out. The original Burger King still exists in Mattoon, and almost 60 years later, the corp can’t open a store within a 20 mile radius.

So the original store owns the “BK” name in a circle encompassing 1256 square miles.

They still serve fish sandwiches. And pork tenderloin sandwiches (@bbqboy), and BLTs. Not to mention the single, double, and triple “Hooter” sandwiches, named after Gene & Betty Hoots, of course.

And if you’d like to get a whole pound of French fries, it’s only $5.39…

Edit - this guy does a fair layman’s job of explaining the history and lawsuit, although he garbles some of the details.

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Beef tallow, duck fat, lard, bacon grease, ghee, butter have all been welcome fry fats in my kitchen forever, bc all of them are delicious.

Is it suddenly popular? I have no idea :woman_shrugging: